Dare To Change

There are two schools of thoughts on change. Cynics say you cannot change and the optimist says that change is not just possible, but simple. I fall somewhere between. We can and do change, usually only when we are forced to or go through something awful. When we change its usually, I almost want to say always incremental. It takes time. Not everyone changes as Paul’s change from Saul the persecutor to the loved apostle.

Change takes time, yet I think each of should dare to change to become what God created us to be.

We are called to change, to align your life more and more with the life and teachings of Jesus.

There came a time when I woke up and now life will never be the same. All the pretending and wanting is done. I will never be the same again. The person I was is dead gone; I am becoming someone else that not even I know. I want to find out who I really am, who I am becoming. No one can tell what goes on in between the person you were and the person you become. No one can chart that blue and lonely section of hell. There are no maps of the change. You just…come out the other side. (Stephen King) Events happen in our life that pushes us to drop the facade and discover who we really are, to stop being a false self and embrace our true self.

It is scary and hard to change, but it is worth the hassle. Yet, if events didn’t cause us to change, we wouldn’t bother with it. We would just remain as we are and be happy with it. When we can no longer change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. (Viktor Frankl) We lose our job, get sick, suffer a break up, someone we love dearly dies, or some other great loss or pain happens and we are left to pick up the pieces. We stand shoulders hunched head lowered wondering how we to go on. How can we live when we hurt so badly? We ask why, why did this have to happen to us. Usually, we don’t get an answer and we are forced to get on with life, everyday someone is suffering greatly.

When we suffer greatly we can touch the divine. We are forced to change. We are forced to live without a job, the person we loved and built our life around, the life we wanted to live is no longer available. Gone not to return, we must live life differently because of this, we become a better, kinder, and able person. We are now able to live life on a different level than before.

Do you dare answer the call of God to change, to become the person you were created to be?

We must answer this question at least once, some more than others. We suffer.  We are forced to come to terms with our loss. Sooner or later, we need to realize there is no going back, no way except forward through it. In our path of recovery, we will find that not only can we go on, but we will be stronger because of it. It is hard to hear people say things will be better that the sun will shine again. We don’t want to hear that gibberish. We don’t want to get over it, to live again. We want things back as they were before. We push away all possibility of changing of living through our pain and loss of finding the light at the end of the darkness. We must know the pain of loss because if we never knew it, we would have no compassion for others, and we would become monsters of self-regard, creatures of unalloyed self-interest. The terrible pain of loss teaches humility to our prideful kind, has the power to soften uncaring hearts, to make a better person of a good one.  (Dean Koontz)

I’m not sure if that helps those going through something dark and unknown, but I can assure you that there is life on the other side. I have gone through a terrible loss and forced to embrace the kind of life I want. I would not be where I am now without having faced my own personal demons and overcome the darkness. Through loss and trails, I have discovered what is good, true, and beautiful. I know have a deeper idea of what really matters and because of that I have realized that life is imperfectly good. Knowing this makes up for all the crap I endured.


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