Are you ready to hear an invitation from God to change?
You may be being called to change, to align your life more and more with the life and teachings of Jesus. There came a time when I woke up and now life will never be the same. All the pretending and wanting is done and Iwill never be the same again. The person I was is dead and gone, Iam becoming someone else that not even I know, but I want to find out who I really am. Stephen King writes, “No one can tell what goes on in between the person you were and the person you become. No one can chart that blue and lonely section of hell. There are no maps of the change. You just…come out the other side.” Events happen in our life that pushes us to drop the facade and discover who we really are, to stop being a false self and embrace our true self.
It is scary and hard to change, but it is usually worth the hassle. Yet, if events didn’t cause us to change, we wouldn’t bother with it. We would just remain as we are and be happy with it. As Viktor Frankl said, “When we can no longer change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” We lose our job, we get sick, we suffer a break up, someone we love dearly dies, or some other great loss or pain befalls us and we are left to pick up the pieces. We stand shoulders hunched head lowered wondering how we are to go on. How can we live when we are hurting so badly? We ask why, why did this have to happen to us. We usually don’t get an answer and are forced to get on with life. We fail to see that somewhere everyday someone is suffering greatly. Meister Eckhart said, “Truly, it is in the darkness that one finds the light, so when we are in sorrow, then this light is nearest of all to us.”
It might be when we suffer greatly that we can touch the divine. We are forced to change. We are forced to live without a job, the person we loved and built our life around, the life we wanted to live is no longer available. Its gone not to return. We must live life differently and because of this, we change into a much better, kinder, and able person. We are now able to live life on a different level than before. God will use our suffering to transform us into the person He would have us be. Not to say that God caused our suffering, He will and does use it for our benefit. C.S. Lewis said, “It is when I turn to Christ, when I give up myself to His personality, that I first begin to have a real personality of my own.”
Are you ready to answer the call of God to change, to become the person you were created to be?
Each of us must answer this question from time to time. Each of suffer losses and are forced to come to terms with our loss. Sooner or later we need to realize that there is no going back, there is no way except forward and through this and our path of recovery we will find that not only can we go on, but we will be stronger because of it. It is hard to hear people say things will be better that the sun will shine again. We don’t want to hear that twaddle. We don’t want to get over it, to live again. We want things back they were before. We push away all possibility of changing of living through our pain and loss. Japanese Novelist, Haruki Murakami writes, “Every one of us is losing something precious to us. Lost opportunities, lost possibilities, feelings we can never get back again. That’s part of what it means to be alive.” American novelist, Dean Koontz says, “We must know the pain of loss because if we never knew it, we would have no compassion for others, and we would become monsters of self-regard, creatures of unalloyed self-interest. The terrible pain of loss teaches humility to our prideful kind, has the power to soften uncaring hearts, to make a better person of a good one. ”
There are reasons why we suffer, I’m not sure if that helps us who are going through something dark and unknown, but I can assure you that there is life on the other side. The past year I have gone through a terrible loss and been forced to embrace the kind of life I want to lead. I have been unemployed for almost two years and while I have gotten more interviews over the last few months no job has manifested. I lost a close relationship that was central to my life. Through this loss and trails, I have discovered what is real and true, what matters and because of that I have realized that life is good, not perfect but good. Sometimes very good, not often but when it is it makes up for all the crap we must endure.
President Barack Obama reminds us “Change will not come if we wait for some other person, or if we wait for some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.”